We all have moments when we go from being as happy as Larry (and by Larry, we obvs mean Louis and Harry) to feeling like crying into a pillow for no apparent reason. Or you’ll be getting ready for a party and feeling super pumped, then all of a sudden you’ll be totally down on yourself and wondering what the hell is wrong with you.“We often get calls from young people who are concerned about changes in their mood,” explains Sonia Thompson, a Clinical Practice Supervisor at Kids Helpline. “They start to notice that they can swing between feeling down, to being happy and then to angry in a short space of time. These sudden changes in mood can feel really overwhelming, but there are lots of people going through the same thing.” Here, we explain where the spontaneous feels come from and how to deal with them.
The science-y part.
During puberty, the body starts producing sex hormones called oestrogen and progesterone that cause physical changes like breast development, growth spurts and of course the start of our periods, but they can also cause emotional changes.
“These sex hormones have different effects on everyone, and in some people it can affect their emotions,” says Sonia. “They can make you feel ups and downs and you may not know why you are feeling the way you are.”
The #life part.
Okay let’s be real: if high school isn’t enough of a reason to make you feel a little blue from time to time, then we don’t know what is! The constant stress over math homework, squad dramz and having to wake up super early erryday is totally a contributing factor to feeling ~moody~ every now and then.
“Because there are so many changes going on from the time you start puberty, it is a really common experience to feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster,” explains Sonia. “Some of the changes are happening within your body and some are happening externally.”
So basically, they’re just a normal part of growing up!
How to deal when you have zero chill.
As we’ve already said, feeling moody is a totally normal part of life; but if you’re constantly irritated, short-tempered and anxious to the point where your emotions are actually ruling your life and you’re having trouble dealing with others; it may be more than just a bad mood.
“Experiencing intense sadness or having a quick temper and feelings of isolation that last for a two week period is a signal that you really need to be talking to a professional about how you feel,” Sonia recommends.
“Importantly, remember that you are not alone with how you’re feeling. Lots of young people go through mood changes but if you’re worried that something might be wrong – listen to how you are feeling and reach out for some help. That’s a real sign of strength!”
Need someone to talk to? See your doctor or school counsellor, or contact a Kids Helpline counsellor for advice: Call 1800 55 1800 or visit kidshelpline.com.au.